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15 Ways to get your confidence back when riding your horse

by | Oct 26, 2020 | Rider Confidence, Rider Mindset, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Understanding how we process sensory information can significantly influence how we experience nerves, anxiety, and fear when riding our horse. We use our ‘internal representational systems’, which refer to the primary ways we perceive and internalise our experiences through our senses, to make provide information about our experiences. Our mind filters and uses this information to make meaning of our subjective experience, as a point of reference for the future.

Our internal representational systems are visual (seeing), auditory (hearing), kinesthetic (feeling), gustatory (tasting), and olfactory (smelling). The processed information from each of these senses will impact how your unconscious mind processes your world and have an impact on how you feel about yourself, your horse and riding. 

Visual (Seeing)

If you tend to think in pictures, you might visualise potential problems while riding, like imagining a fall or picturing the horse becoming spooked. These vivid mental images can make you feel more anxious. To manage this, you can refocus your mind on visualising exactly what you actually want to happen, in as much detail as you can. Your mind really doesn’t know the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined, and will respond to precisely what you tell it! So using this to your advantage and use your brilliant imagination to create a visualised scenario where things happen exactly as you want them to, and where you manage any surprises with ease and confidence. 

Auditory (Hearing)

If you’re sensitive to sounds, the external noise of the horse’s hooves, your horse’s breathing, or sounds from the environment will all add to how you experience riding your horse. Internal sounds, such as your self-talk are also an important factor, since we often don’t realise quite how we speak to ourselves in our mind! Listening to calming music (where it’s safe to do so, obviously!), and positively managing your self-talk before and during your ride will help boost your confidence.

Kinaesthetic (Feeling)

If you are someone who is highly attuned to your feelings and emotions, you might be acutely aware of every physical sensation in your body and how it makes you feel. You might be aware of a knot in your stomach, tightness in your throat, or a very real feeling of having your legs turn to jelly! These type of physical sensations quickly transmit an alert to your mind, triggering nerves, anxiety and even fear. Practising deep breathing or other relaxation techniques can help you manage these physical sensations and reduce your anxiety.

Gustatory (Tasting)

As riders, the sense of taste is one we don’t often think about, and it’s closely tied to memory, where certain flavours can trigger emotional responses. I know of riders who chew minty gum before they ride (never chew gum while riding, as it is a choking hazard), and that minty sensation on their tongue can anchor feelings of readiness and confidence. Being mindful of what you eat or drink before riding and choosing flavours that you find comforting or refreshing can help trigger a shift in how you feel. 

Olfactory (Smelling)

Certain smells can evoke powerful emotional responses. I don’t know about you, but I love the slightly warm, sweaty smell of horses who have just worked (that sounds weird, doesn’t it?!). As a child, I dreamed of the smell horses, of leather tack, and even now the first fly spray of the summer brings a reminiscence of happy hacking days. Find those smells which make you feel good and remind you of happy times, then make use of these whenever you can. 

Recognising which of these sensory inputs resonates with you most will provide you with simple tools to improve your riding confidence. By consciously adjusting how you seek out and use these sensory inputs, you can help yourself feel more in control and less anxious while riding. 

Preferences

While each of us might have a preference for one or more internal representational systems, such as visual, auditory, or kinesthetic, it’s important to note that we don’t exclusively use just one; our mind gathers and uses information from all of them. Think of it like having a favourite tool in a toolbox; even though you might prefer one tool, you still use the others when the situation requires it.

For instance, even if you primarily process your experience in a primarily visual way by imagining scenarios and pictures in your mind, your mind will still also pay attention to what you hear, the physical sensations you feel, the tastes and smells that surround you. Each sense provides a different piece of the puzzle, contributing to a fuller understanding and experience of your environment.

This means when you’re riding your horse and trying to manage anxiety, even though you might focus on using your preferred sensory channel, such as visualising calm and successful rides, you’ll also benefit from tuning into the sounds that calm you, the feel of the horse beneath you, and even calming scents or flavours. Using a combination of all your senses can help create a richer, more grounded experience that can be more effective in managing your nerves.

Simple Tips

Visual

Focus on shifting your mindset by vividly imagining positive outcomes. Instead of letting your mind linger on potential challenges, picture yourself riding smoothly, handling challenges with ease, and finishing your ride successfully. This practice of visualisation can help build your confidence and reassurance. 

Auditory

Integrate calming sounds into your daily routine to help soothe your nerves. This could be as simple as listening to the radio while you tack up, or repeating positive affirmations to yourself such as “I am calm and in control” or “I trust my abilities and my horse.” These auditory cues can help create a mental environment of calmness and positivity.

Kinesthetic

Use physical relaxation techniques to reduce anxiety and physical tension. Before riding, try doing some gentle stretches, deep breathing exercises, or progressive muscle relaxation—where you tense and then relax different muscle groups. This not only relaxes your body but also prepares your mind for a more comfortable and focused ride.

Gustatory

Choose flavours that evoke a sense of calm and enjoyment for you. This might mean having a peppermint or a piece of dark chocolate before you ride or sipping herbal tea like chamomile which is known for its soothing properties. These tastes can trigger positive sensory memories and help calm your nerves.

Olfactory

Introduce a comforting and familiar scent into your riding environment. This could be applying a dab of lavender oil on your wrist or adding a few drops of tea tree oil to your riding gear. The smell of chamomile can also be soothing. These scents can significantly enhance your emotional state by triggering positive associations and reducing stress, creating a more relaxing atmosphere for both you and your horse.

By actively engaging these sensory strategies, you can better manage your emotions and enhance your overall riding experience. Each tip is designed to help you focus, relax, and enjoy your time with your horse, making your rides more pleasant and successful.

 

In conclusion, understanding how your internal representational systems influence your emotions can help you manage your nerves and anxieyt around riding. By recognising your preferred internal representational systems, you can use different strategies to feel calmer and more in control, so you can become a more confident rider. 

15 Ways to get your confidence back when riding your horse

If you’ve lost your riding confidence, here are my top tips to help you get back on your horse, and feel more positive and confident.

Start where you are right now

Forget about comparing what you used to be able to do, or what you think you ‘should’ be able to do. Accept that you are not feeling as confident as you would like, and commit to doing something about it.

Decide what you want to do

What is your goal? What do you want to do with your horse? How do you want to feel when you’re riding? If you don’t know where you want to get to, how will you ever get there?

Get some lessons

Find an experienced and qualified equestrian coach to help you improve your riding skills, and communication with your horse, so that you can both enjoy your time together.

It’s your journey

Other people’s opinions are none of your business! Remind yourself that this is your journey, with your horse. Build yourself a team of key people who will support and guide you, for example your family, close friends, professionals such as your Rider Mindset & Confidence Coach, and let go of worrying what anyone else thinks!

Work on your mindset

Riding is 80% mindset, and 20% actual riding skills. If your mind is stuck in a negative thinking loop, then you will struggle to ever really be confident or truly enjoy your riding. Learning about how your mind works and working on creating a positive, growth mindset will allow you to do anything you put your mind to!

Improve your balance & security in the saddle

How can you be confident if you’re not balanced and secure when riding? Work on your own physical fitness, cardiovascular, strength and core, so that you can be more effective in your riding. Develop your riding skills so that you can ride with an ‘independent seat’ where you are not relying on your reins to keep you on board. Learn how to apply the aids correctly so that you can communicate with your horse clearly and proactively. Once you find the ability to positively influence and communicate with your horse, you’ll stop feeling like a passenger. 

Ride a schoolmaster

Invest in some riding lessons on an experienced, well schooled horse, so that you can build your technical riding skills and your confidence at the same time.

Celebrate your successes

Recognise, record and reward yourself for your achievements, no matter how small. If you’ve done something you are proud of, then celebrate. Perhaps you did something a little outside of your comfort zone, and it was all fine. Start to focus on what is going well, and you’ll create more positive experiences.

Take your time

There are no rules about what you ‘should’ be able to do at any given point in time. When you’re feeling anxious or scared, time can feel like it has sped up. Take a deep breath, pause and slow down. Rushing will only make you feel tense and stressed. Slow down, take your time and build your riding confidence one step at a time.

Visualise what you want to happen

All too often, our minds visualise the worst case scenario, which makes us ride defensively. Start to visualise exactly what you want to happen, and allow yourself to enjoy the best possible outcome.

Stay safe

Make sure you take whatever practical measures necessary to keep yourself safe. Always wear a correctly fitted and fastened riding hat, appropriate footwear with a smooth sole, and if it makes you feel better wearing a body protector or air jacket, then do so. Perhaps you could ask an experienced friend to be with you in the arena when you ride, or walk with you while you go for a short hack. Whatever it takes, the safety of you and your horse, comes first. 

Improve your horse’s way of going

The better your horse’s way of going, the better the communication between you. If your horse is green, inexperienced, or has other ridden challenges, you might find it beneficial to have a more experienced, professional rider to do some work with your horse so that he/she becomes more established. Obviously, please do your due diligence and only send your horse to someone you trust, is suitably experienced and insured, and always get a contract in place which details exactly what will happen. 

Stretch your comfort zone

You will only get more confident if you decide to take action. But the key is to make your action steps as small as they possibly can be. Tiny steps forwards each and every day will add up to massive progress. Conversely, if you try and take steps which are too big and too far outside of your comfort zone, you will become overwhelmed and disheartened. 

Keep a Journal

One of the simplest things you can do to boost your riding confidence is to keep a journal. Write down at least one thing you have done each day to build your riding confidence. Over time, you’ll look back and see how far you have come on your confidence journey. 

Make your mindset and riding confidence a priority

If you’re struggling with a loss of confidence when riding, it won’t get any better if you keep burying your head in the sand! You can become a more confident rider, however this will only happen if you make it a priority. Just like learning to ride, there are a wide variety of tools, techniques and strategies that you need to use to help you become a confident rider, so make your mindset a priority so that you and your horse can reap the benefits.

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