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What is a confident rider?

by | Feb 28, 2021 | Rider Confidence, Rider Mindset | 0 comments

Understanding how we process sensory information can significantly influence how we experience nerves, anxiety, and fear when riding our horse. We use our ‘internal representational systems’, which refer to the primary ways we perceive and internalise our experiences through our senses, to make provide information about our experiences. Our mind filters and uses this information to make meaning of our subjective experience, as a point of reference for the future.

Our internal representational systems are visual (seeing), auditory (hearing), kinesthetic (feeling), gustatory (tasting), and olfactory (smelling). The processed information from each of these senses will impact how your unconscious mind processes your world and have an impact on how you feel about yourself, your horse and riding. 

Visual (Seeing)

If you tend to think in pictures, you might visualise potential problems while riding, like imagining a fall or picturing the horse becoming spooked. These vivid mental images can make you feel more anxious. To manage this, you can refocus your mind on visualising exactly what you actually want to happen, in as much detail as you can. Your mind really doesn’t know the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined, and will respond to precisely what you tell it! So using this to your advantage and use your brilliant imagination to create a visualised scenario where things happen exactly as you want them to, and where you manage any surprises with ease and confidence. 

Auditory (Hearing)

If you’re sensitive to sounds, the external noise of the horse’s hooves, your horse’s breathing, or sounds from the environment will all add to how you experience riding your horse. Internal sounds, such as your self-talk are also an important factor, since we often don’t realise quite how we speak to ourselves in our mind! Listening to calming music (where it’s safe to do so, obviously!), and positively managing your self-talk before and during your ride will help boost your confidence.

Kinaesthetic (Feeling)

If you are someone who is highly attuned to your feelings and emotions, you might be acutely aware of every physical sensation in your body and how it makes you feel. You might be aware of a knot in your stomach, tightness in your throat, or a very real feeling of having your legs turn to jelly! These type of physical sensations quickly transmit an alert to your mind, triggering nerves, anxiety and even fear. Practising deep breathing or other relaxation techniques can help you manage these physical sensations and reduce your anxiety.

Gustatory (Tasting)

As riders, the sense of taste is one we don’t often think about, and it’s closely tied to memory, where certain flavours can trigger emotional responses. I know of riders who chew minty gum before they ride (never chew gum while riding, as it is a choking hazard), and that minty sensation on their tongue can anchor feelings of readiness and confidence. Being mindful of what you eat or drink before riding and choosing flavours that you find comforting or refreshing can help trigger a shift in how you feel. 

Olfactory (Smelling)

Certain smells can evoke powerful emotional responses. I don’t know about you, but I love the slightly warm, sweaty smell of horses who have just worked (that sounds weird, doesn’t it?!). As a child, I dreamed of the smell horses, of leather tack, and even now the first fly spray of the summer brings a reminiscence of happy hacking days. Find those smells which make you feel good and remind you of happy times, then make use of these whenever you can. 

Recognising which of these sensory inputs resonates with you most will provide you with simple tools to improve your riding confidence. By consciously adjusting how you seek out and use these sensory inputs, you can help yourself feel more in control and less anxious while riding. 

Preferences

While each of us might have a preference for one or more internal representational systems, such as visual, auditory, or kinesthetic, it’s important to note that we don’t exclusively use just one; our mind gathers and uses information from all of them. Think of it like having a favourite tool in a toolbox; even though you might prefer one tool, you still use the others when the situation requires it.

For instance, even if you primarily process your experience in a primarily visual way by imagining scenarios and pictures in your mind, your mind will still also pay attention to what you hear, the physical sensations you feel, the tastes and smells that surround you. Each sense provides a different piece of the puzzle, contributing to a fuller understanding and experience of your environment.

This means when you’re riding your horse and trying to manage anxiety, even though you might focus on using your preferred sensory channel, such as visualising calm and successful rides, you’ll also benefit from tuning into the sounds that calm you, the feel of the horse beneath you, and even calming scents or flavours. Using a combination of all your senses can help create a richer, more grounded experience that can be more effective in managing your nerves.

Simple Tips

Visual

Focus on shifting your mindset by vividly imagining positive outcomes. Instead of letting your mind linger on potential challenges, picture yourself riding smoothly, handling challenges with ease, and finishing your ride successfully. This practice of visualisation can help build your confidence and reassurance. 

Auditory

Integrate calming sounds into your daily routine to help soothe your nerves. This could be as simple as listening to the radio while you tack up, or repeating positive affirmations to yourself such as “I am calm and in control” or “I trust my abilities and my horse.” These auditory cues can help create a mental environment of calmness and positivity.

Kinesthetic

Use physical relaxation techniques to reduce anxiety and physical tension. Before riding, try doing some gentle stretches, deep breathing exercises, or progressive muscle relaxation—where you tense and then relax different muscle groups. This not only relaxes your body but also prepares your mind for a more comfortable and focused ride.

Gustatory

Choose flavours that evoke a sense of calm and enjoyment for you. This might mean having a peppermint or a piece of dark chocolate before you ride or sipping herbal tea like chamomile which is known for its soothing properties. These tastes can trigger positive sensory memories and help calm your nerves.

Olfactory

Introduce a comforting and familiar scent into your riding environment. This could be applying a dab of lavender oil on your wrist or adding a few drops of tea tree oil to your riding gear. The smell of chamomile can also be soothing. These scents can significantly enhance your emotional state by triggering positive associations and reducing stress, creating a more relaxing atmosphere for both you and your horse.

By actively engaging these sensory strategies, you can better manage your emotions and enhance your overall riding experience. Each tip is designed to help you focus, relax, and enjoy your time with your horse, making your rides more pleasant and successful.

 

In conclusion, understanding how your internal representational systems influence your emotions can help you manage your nerves and anxieyt around riding. By recognising your preferred internal representational systems, you can use different strategies to feel calmer and more in control, so you can become a more confident rider. 

Have you ever wondered what being a confident rider actually means? How do you know if you’re confident? Do you even think about how you’re a confident rider (or not?!)?

The term ‘confident rider’ is talked about an awful lot, and there are numerous social media groups and forums where riders who are struggling with a lack of confidence in their riding share their experiences and ideas, but what does it really mean to be a ‘confident rider’?

There are so many different aspects of being a rider that can influence whether we feel truly confident or not. 

Level of experience

Having ridden horses for years can be a double edged sword! Time in the saddle and with different horses brings with it inevitable highs and lows, and depending on how you manage those challenges, can have a huge impact on your confidence. For example, knowing that you can ride a wide variety of different horses at different levels, can offer plenty of positive evidence that you are an experienced, capable rider. However, in riding such a wide variety of horses, you will inevitably have accidents, falls and near-misses, and if these have shaken you physically or psychologically, the aftermath can lead to a loss of confidence and self-belief. 

Conversely, novice and inexperienced riders who are learning their trade, can sometime be naively confident, perhaps not yet fully versed in the impact (figuratively and literally) of falls and accidents. The saying “ignorance is bliss” can go both ways, and isn’t always a bad thing, allowing novice riders to develop their skills, although I would always advise that they work with a good Coach to help minimise risk and promote positive learning experiences. 

The horse

No horse is inherently bad, however some horses are subject to such poor treatment and training that they become extremely difficult to manage and ride, through no fault of their own. For those that are fortunate enough to have been brought on correctly and ethically, their future is entirely in the hands of their owners and riders. It is our responsibility as horse riders to ensure that we are doing everything we can to develop our physical skills, balance, symmetry and communication with with horse, in order to have a positive impact on the horse’s welfare, soundness and training. Yes, we all make mistakes, but the key is to learn from them.

In terms of confidence, we all have a duty to buy the right horse for our circumstances and real, actual ability, rather than the horse we wish we could ride. I see waay to many riders who have simply bought the wrong horse for their needs. Nothing will undermine a rider’s confidence more than being over-horsed and scared! Yes, finding the right horse is incredibly difficult sometimes, however we must be brutally honest with ourselves about the type of horse we need, rather than the horse we want. These are often two very different animals!

Rider Mindset

Falling off is part and parcel of riding. It’s a risk we all take when riding. Owning horses is a roller coaster of emotions, with super highs and super lows. Confidence comes from being able to manage your emotions through the good times and the bad, and a person’s mindset has a huge impact on our self-belief, confidence and resilience. 

It is entirely possible to become confident again after a fall or accident, however the majority of riders simply don’t have access to the tools, techniques and strategies to rebuild a positive, balanced mindset. Throughout the equestrian industry are the questionable strategies of “you must get straight back on the horse”, or “just kick on, you’ll be fine”, neither of which are particularly helpful (or safe!) when a rider is already in flight or fight mode. 

If you were struggling with a particular riding skill, for example riding better canter transitions, jumping related distances or moving up to the next competitive level, then I’m fairly sure that one of the first things you’d do is get some lessons from a decent coach. But for some reason, riders don’t think about how they could develop their mental skills and resilience in the same way. 

We can all learn more about how our minds work, and practice simple, effective strategies to become more calm and confident as riders. It’s easier sometimes to focus on the practical things; really digging deep into our beliefs, thoughts and emotions can feel hard and overwhelming. But for those who commit to ‘sorting their head out’, the rewards are amazing. 

Definition of confidence

I could ask 1000 riders what being confident means to them, and I’m sure I’d get a wide variety of different answers, however there would be themes running through their comments. It’s way easier to define what a lack of confidence feels like: fears of falling off and getting hurt, fear of uncertainty and fear of failure and judgement, and exploring what experiencing true confidence means can help riders start to make positive mindset shifts. 

When I’ve worked with riders to develop their riding confidence, the key development points are:

  • Identifying and overcoming limiting beliefs about themselves and their horse.
  • Finding awareness of thought patterns, good and bad, and exploring the stories they tell themselves. 
  • Letting go of negative emotions and finding learning in challenging experiences.
  • Defining what they actually want to happen, and owning it at an unconscious level.
  • Exploring internal and external language patterns, and how these can be adjusted to offer the desired outcomes.
  • Taking 100% responsibility for their beliefs, thoughts, emotions and actions… at all times.
  • Becoming resilient, developing the self-belief to manage and thrive during good times and those periods which challenge us, and having a set of tools, techniques and strategies to hand which they can turn to when needed. 

(Plus a whole heap of other stuff too!)

Confidence is personal, individual, and fluid. 

Start thinking about rider confidence as a spectrum, where sometimes we’ll be close to empty and other times will be full. 

For most riders, feeling confidence is a process rather than an outcome; learn to enjoy and explore where you are now and find joy in the journey towards feeling more confident, in whatever form that takes for you.

And know that confidence is a skill, just like any other, which can be learned, taking you from a beginner to a master of your own mindset.

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