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Too scared to ride?

by | Jun 7, 2021 | Equestrian Coach, Horse Riding, Rider Confidence, Rider Mindset | 1 comment

Understanding how we process sensory information can significantly influence how we experience nerves, anxiety, and fear when riding our horse. We use our ‘internal representational systems’, which refer to the primary ways we perceive and internalise our experiences through our senses, to make provide information about our experiences. Our mind filters and uses this information to make meaning of our subjective experience, as a point of reference for the future.

Our internal representational systems are visual (seeing), auditory (hearing), kinesthetic (feeling), gustatory (tasting), and olfactory (smelling). The processed information from each of these senses will impact how your unconscious mind processes your world and have an impact on how you feel about yourself, your horse and riding. 

Visual (Seeing)

If you tend to think in pictures, you might visualise potential problems while riding, like imagining a fall or picturing the horse becoming spooked. These vivid mental images can make you feel more anxious. To manage this, you can refocus your mind on visualising exactly what you actually want to happen, in as much detail as you can. Your mind really doesn’t know the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined, and will respond to precisely what you tell it! So using this to your advantage and use your brilliant imagination to create a visualised scenario where things happen exactly as you want them to, and where you manage any surprises with ease and confidence. 

Auditory (Hearing)

If you’re sensitive to sounds, the external noise of the horse’s hooves, your horse’s breathing, or sounds from the environment will all add to how you experience riding your horse. Internal sounds, such as your self-talk are also an important factor, since we often don’t realise quite how we speak to ourselves in our mind! Listening to calming music (where it’s safe to do so, obviously!), and positively managing your self-talk before and during your ride will help boost your confidence.

Kinaesthetic (Feeling)

If you are someone who is highly attuned to your feelings and emotions, you might be acutely aware of every physical sensation in your body and how it makes you feel. You might be aware of a knot in your stomach, tightness in your throat, or a very real feeling of having your legs turn to jelly! These type of physical sensations quickly transmit an alert to your mind, triggering nerves, anxiety and even fear. Practising deep breathing or other relaxation techniques can help you manage these physical sensations and reduce your anxiety.

Gustatory (Tasting)

As riders, the sense of taste is one we don’t often think about, and it’s closely tied to memory, where certain flavours can trigger emotional responses. I know of riders who chew minty gum before they ride (never chew gum while riding, as it is a choking hazard), and that minty sensation on their tongue can anchor feelings of readiness and confidence. Being mindful of what you eat or drink before riding and choosing flavours that you find comforting or refreshing can help trigger a shift in how you feel. 

Olfactory (Smelling)

Certain smells can evoke powerful emotional responses. I don’t know about you, but I love the slightly warm, sweaty smell of horses who have just worked (that sounds weird, doesn’t it?!). As a child, I dreamed of the smell horses, of leather tack, and even now the first fly spray of the summer brings a reminiscence of happy hacking days. Find those smells which make you feel good and remind you of happy times, then make use of these whenever you can. 

Recognising which of these sensory inputs resonates with you most will provide you with simple tools to improve your riding confidence. By consciously adjusting how you seek out and use these sensory inputs, you can help yourself feel more in control and less anxious while riding. 

Preferences

While each of us might have a preference for one or more internal representational systems, such as visual, auditory, or kinesthetic, it’s important to note that we don’t exclusively use just one; our mind gathers and uses information from all of them. Think of it like having a favourite tool in a toolbox; even though you might prefer one tool, you still use the others when the situation requires it.

For instance, even if you primarily process your experience in a primarily visual way by imagining scenarios and pictures in your mind, your mind will still also pay attention to what you hear, the physical sensations you feel, the tastes and smells that surround you. Each sense provides a different piece of the puzzle, contributing to a fuller understanding and experience of your environment.

This means when you’re riding your horse and trying to manage anxiety, even though you might focus on using your preferred sensory channel, such as visualising calm and successful rides, you’ll also benefit from tuning into the sounds that calm you, the feel of the horse beneath you, and even calming scents or flavours. Using a combination of all your senses can help create a richer, more grounded experience that can be more effective in managing your nerves.

Simple Tips

Visual

Focus on shifting your mindset by vividly imagining positive outcomes. Instead of letting your mind linger on potential challenges, picture yourself riding smoothly, handling challenges with ease, and finishing your ride successfully. This practice of visualisation can help build your confidence and reassurance. 

Auditory

Integrate calming sounds into your daily routine to help soothe your nerves. This could be as simple as listening to the radio while you tack up, or repeating positive affirmations to yourself such as “I am calm and in control” or “I trust my abilities and my horse.” These auditory cues can help create a mental environment of calmness and positivity.

Kinesthetic

Use physical relaxation techniques to reduce anxiety and physical tension. Before riding, try doing some gentle stretches, deep breathing exercises, or progressive muscle relaxation—where you tense and then relax different muscle groups. This not only relaxes your body but also prepares your mind for a more comfortable and focused ride.

Gustatory

Choose flavours that evoke a sense of calm and enjoyment for you. This might mean having a peppermint or a piece of dark chocolate before you ride or sipping herbal tea like chamomile which is known for its soothing properties. These tastes can trigger positive sensory memories and help calm your nerves.

Olfactory

Introduce a comforting and familiar scent into your riding environment. This could be applying a dab of lavender oil on your wrist or adding a few drops of tea tree oil to your riding gear. The smell of chamomile can also be soothing. These scents can significantly enhance your emotional state by triggering positive associations and reducing stress, creating a more relaxing atmosphere for both you and your horse.

By actively engaging these sensory strategies, you can better manage your emotions and enhance your overall riding experience. Each tip is designed to help you focus, relax, and enjoy your time with your horse, making your rides more pleasant and successful.

 

In conclusion, understanding how your internal representational systems influence your emotions can help you manage your nerves and anxieyt around riding. By recognising your preferred internal representational systems, you can use different strategies to feel calmer and more in control, so you can become a more confident rider. 

It’s OK, you’re not alone. Many riders struggle with feeling scared when riding, and the good news is that you can learn how to overcome your fears, and get back to doing what you love.

There are many different reasons why you might be feeling too scared to ride. Perhaps you’ve had a fall, or you’re returning to riding later in life after having a family, or maybe you can’t really explain why you’re suddenly terrified of getting on your horse? Whatever your situation, there are plenty of ways in which you can rebuild your confidence.

Remember that fear is important, and its purpose is to keep us safe. We can’t get rid of fear, and actually that’s a good thing! Fear helps us to survive. It kick-starts a physiological chain reaction, which primes our body for the flight or fight response to help get us out of immediate danger. This is when we experience those often uncomfortable physical sensations of a pounding heart, fast and shallow breathing, sweating, jelly legs and rising waves of panic. 

The trouble is that if this happens while we’re riding, our horse immediately picks up on it and becomes tense and fearful themselves, and as prey animals they have a strong flight or fight instinct… which in turn makes us feel even more scared… which becomes a vicious circle of stress!

To compound the issue further, our ancient lizard brain (the part of our brain whose sole function is to help us survive) cannot tell the difference between a real and a perceived or imagined threat. It will respond by interpreting any and every threat in the same way, i.e. by instigating the flight or fight physiological response.

So while this might seem like an insurmountable problem, I want you to understand that all of this is actually really good news! Why on earth is this a good thing? 

Well, firstly I want you to know that if you experience fear, that you are a completely normal human being. You are responding exactly how a human being is programmed to respond to a threat. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you! 

Secondly, you have the power within you to interrupt and downgrade your fear response, if it’s appropriate and when you choose to do so. This means that you do not have to stay feeling like a victim of your physical and emotional response, so that you can quickly get back to riding positively again.

You just need to know how, right? Here are my simple steps you can take to stop feeling scared:

Recognise that what you are experiencing is fear. 

Notice how your physical sensations have changed, and become aware that these are simply a manifestation of the flight or fight response. You could even label your fear as excitement, as they trigger the exact same set of physical responses! 

Press pause. 

Take a moment to acknowledge what is happening, and slow your breathing down. Breathe in through your nose, and out through your mouth.

Observe your thoughts.

Notice the thoughts in your head, and accept them for what they are; they are simply thoughts passing through your mind, and thoughts are not truths. Be objective and non-judgemental, notice your thoughts as if you are an independent observer who is gathering impartial information for a report or a case study.

Broaden your focus of attention.

What can you see and hear around you? What physical sensations can you feel from your body, in this moment right now? How much detail can you add to the information you are gathering from each of your senses?

Find the bigger picture

What’s the broader focus of what you’re doing right now? How important is what you’re doing in the grand scheme of things? How might someone else interpret this situation? What would a trusted friend or your coach say to you right now? 

You have a choice.

Make a positive decision about what to do next. Perhaps you need to reassure your horse, or regain his focus on you, or distract him by riding a transition, a school movement, or putting your leg on. You always have a choice in what you think, feel and do, and commit to doing something that will help you feel in control and positive, right now. Do what will be effective and appropriate to your situation. The priorities are staying safe and in control of yourself and your horse, so whatever you choose with these principles in mind is fine. 

Once you take positive action in the situation where you were feeling scared, you start to re-engage your rational, conscious thought processes, and you begin to feel empowered and more confident. Taking small steps to positive, appropriate action is the antidote to feeling scared, plus you’ll find the added bonus of giving your horse confidence too!

You need to practice this process over and over again, until it becomes automatic when you’ll suddenly realise that your emotions are under control and you start to really enjoy your riding again. 

And you can, can’t you?

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