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A Riding Instructor and a lightbulb moment

by | Dec 6, 2019 | Equestrian Coach, Horse Riding | 0 comments

Understanding how we process sensory information can significantly influence how we experience nerves, anxiety, and fear when riding our horse. We use our ‘internal representational systems’, which refer to the primary ways we perceive and internalise our experiences through our senses, to make provide information about our experiences. Our mind filters and uses this information to make meaning of our subjective experience, as a point of reference for the future.

Our internal representational systems are visual (seeing), auditory (hearing), kinesthetic (feeling), gustatory (tasting), and olfactory (smelling). The processed information from each of these senses will impact how your unconscious mind processes your world and have an impact on how you feel about yourself, your horse and riding. 

Visual (Seeing)

If you tend to think in pictures, you might visualise potential problems while riding, like imagining a fall or picturing the horse becoming spooked. These vivid mental images can make you feel more anxious. To manage this, you can refocus your mind on visualising exactly what you actually want to happen, in as much detail as you can. Your mind really doesn’t know the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined, and will respond to precisely what you tell it! So using this to your advantage and use your brilliant imagination to create a visualised scenario where things happen exactly as you want them to, and where you manage any surprises with ease and confidence. 

Auditory (Hearing)

If you’re sensitive to sounds, the external noise of the horse’s hooves, your horse’s breathing, or sounds from the environment will all add to how you experience riding your horse. Internal sounds, such as your self-talk are also an important factor, since we often don’t realise quite how we speak to ourselves in our mind! Listening to calming music (where it’s safe to do so, obviously!), and positively managing your self-talk before and during your ride will help boost your confidence.

Kinaesthetic (Feeling)

If you are someone who is highly attuned to your feelings and emotions, you might be acutely aware of every physical sensation in your body and how it makes you feel. You might be aware of a knot in your stomach, tightness in your throat, or a very real feeling of having your legs turn to jelly! These type of physical sensations quickly transmit an alert to your mind, triggering nerves, anxiety and even fear. Practising deep breathing or other relaxation techniques can help you manage these physical sensations and reduce your anxiety.

Gustatory (Tasting)

As riders, the sense of taste is one we don’t often think about, and it’s closely tied to memory, where certain flavours can trigger emotional responses. I know of riders who chew minty gum before they ride (never chew gum while riding, as it is a choking hazard), and that minty sensation on their tongue can anchor feelings of readiness and confidence. Being mindful of what you eat or drink before riding and choosing flavours that you find comforting or refreshing can help trigger a shift in how you feel. 

Olfactory (Smelling)

Certain smells can evoke powerful emotional responses. I don’t know about you, but I love the slightly warm, sweaty smell of horses who have just worked (that sounds weird, doesn’t it?!). As a child, I dreamed of the smell horses, of leather tack, and even now the first fly spray of the summer brings a reminiscence of happy hacking days. Find those smells which make you feel good and remind you of happy times, then make use of these whenever you can. 

Recognising which of these sensory inputs resonates with you most will provide you with simple tools to improve your riding confidence. By consciously adjusting how you seek out and use these sensory inputs, you can help yourself feel more in control and less anxious while riding. 

Preferences

While each of us might have a preference for one or more internal representational systems, such as visual, auditory, or kinesthetic, it’s important to note that we don’t exclusively use just one; our mind gathers and uses information from all of them. Think of it like having a favourite tool in a toolbox; even though you might prefer one tool, you still use the others when the situation requires it.

For instance, even if you primarily process your experience in a primarily visual way by imagining scenarios and pictures in your mind, your mind will still also pay attention to what you hear, the physical sensations you feel, the tastes and smells that surround you. Each sense provides a different piece of the puzzle, contributing to a fuller understanding and experience of your environment.

This means when you’re riding your horse and trying to manage anxiety, even though you might focus on using your preferred sensory channel, such as visualising calm and successful rides, you’ll also benefit from tuning into the sounds that calm you, the feel of the horse beneath you, and even calming scents or flavours. Using a combination of all your senses can help create a richer, more grounded experience that can be more effective in managing your nerves.

Simple Tips

Visual

Focus on shifting your mindset by vividly imagining positive outcomes. Instead of letting your mind linger on potential challenges, picture yourself riding smoothly, handling challenges with ease, and finishing your ride successfully. This practice of visualisation can help build your confidence and reassurance. 

Auditory

Integrate calming sounds into your daily routine to help soothe your nerves. This could be as simple as listening to the radio while you tack up, or repeating positive affirmations to yourself such as “I am calm and in control” or “I trust my abilities and my horse.” These auditory cues can help create a mental environment of calmness and positivity.

Kinesthetic

Use physical relaxation techniques to reduce anxiety and physical tension. Before riding, try doing some gentle stretches, deep breathing exercises, or progressive muscle relaxation—where you tense and then relax different muscle groups. This not only relaxes your body but also prepares your mind for a more comfortable and focused ride.

Gustatory

Choose flavours that evoke a sense of calm and enjoyment for you. This might mean having a peppermint or a piece of dark chocolate before you ride or sipping herbal tea like chamomile which is known for its soothing properties. These tastes can trigger positive sensory memories and help calm your nerves.

Olfactory

Introduce a comforting and familiar scent into your riding environment. This could be applying a dab of lavender oil on your wrist or adding a few drops of tea tree oil to your riding gear. The smell of chamomile can also be soothing. These scents can significantly enhance your emotional state by triggering positive associations and reducing stress, creating a more relaxing atmosphere for both you and your horse.

By actively engaging these sensory strategies, you can better manage your emotions and enhance your overall riding experience. Each tip is designed to help you focus, relax, and enjoy your time with your horse, making your rides more pleasant and successful.

 

In conclusion, understanding how your internal representational systems influence your emotions can help you manage your nerves and anxieyt around riding. By recognising your preferred internal representational systems, you can use different strategies to feel calmer and more in control, so you can become a more confident rider. 

A Riding Instructor and a Lightbulb Moment

No Riding Instructor is perfect! There’s value in developing good communication skills, and reflecting on what worked & what didn’t.

As a Riding Instructor and Equestrian Coach, sometimes you just get those moments in lessons where the penny drops, and something you’ve been trying to improve for a while suddenly becomes clear.

I had one of those moments this week. The client I was teaching has always struggled with riding her horse in left bend. Despite repeated prompts from me about her riding position, and the subtle changes that needed to be made in order to achieve a decent left bend in her horse, it was clear that there was not much of a change happening. Hmm, time to investigate.

We had a really interesting chat during a break in the ridden work, and I asked the lady what she felt her body was doing when I asked her to “turn her shoulders to the left” in line with the bend we were trying to achieve in the horse. She explained that she found it to physically look left and turn her neck and shoulders, in order to look in the direction of travel. She said that she was experiencing some soreness in her neck when trying to do what I was asking. Now this was less than ideal, as I know that she suffers with osteoarthritis in her neck and other parts of her body, plus she has a dodgy hip too!

While she was riding quietly in walk on a loose rein on a vaguely large circle, I asked her to physically show me what she was doing when I prompted her to turn her upper body to the left. I watched. She was doing something a bit odd, if I’m honest. It looked as if she was trying to turn left with just her shoulders, while her ribcage and everything below her shoulders remained fairly straight. And stiff.

What had happened? We broke down the movement, and we discussed that what I meant was for her to turn her upper body from the waist upwards. It is physically impossible to just turn the shoulders on their own!

I knew exactly what I was trying to get her to do, but my language meant that she interpreted the guidance very differently to what I had intended.

We played with the different movements – swapping from what she was trying to do previously, to the new technique of turning the whole upper body from the waist. And there it was, the lightbulb moment. The mare was wandering around on a loose rein, and when the lady moved her body in the new way, she offered a lovely left bend without actively being asked for it!

Such a fascinating insight into the value and importance of good communication. What we say as a Coach or Instructor is not always what a rider hears (or understands). Missed detail, generalisations, over-efficiency in the use of language when you’re trying to communicate quickly, lack of awareness of the impact of the chosen words, can all have a negative impact on what the rider hears (never mind their own internal deletions, distortions and generalisations!).

However, it was a huge lightbulb moment for the client and me! Do they happen every lesson? Nope. But when they do, these moments where the penny drops, or a real time leap forwards in understanding and application, are amazing and a huge part of the reason I love what I do as a riding instructor.

Nobody is perfect. We all could take more time to reflect on events and what we can learn from them. That’s how imperfect progress, not perfection, takes place.

Have you experienced a ‘lightbulb’ moment in your riding? Maybe your riding instructor has really helped you achieve it? I’d love to hear how it had an impact on you, so do drop me a line in the comments below.

Onwards! Ax

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