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9 Ways to get your riding confidence back after falling off your horse

by | Dec 28, 2020 | Equestrian Coach, Rider Confidence, Rider Mindset | 1 comment

Understanding how we process sensory information can significantly influence how we experience nerves, anxiety, and fear when riding our horse. We use our ‘internal representational systems’, which refer to the primary ways we perceive and internalise our experiences through our senses, to make provide information about our experiences. Our mind filters and uses this information to make meaning of our subjective experience, as a point of reference for the future.

Our internal representational systems are visual (seeing), auditory (hearing), kinesthetic (feeling), gustatory (tasting), and olfactory (smelling). The processed information from each of these senses will impact how your unconscious mind processes your world and have an impact on how you feel about yourself, your horse and riding. 

Visual (Seeing)

If you tend to think in pictures, you might visualise potential problems while riding, like imagining a fall or picturing the horse becoming spooked. These vivid mental images can make you feel more anxious. To manage this, you can refocus your mind on visualising exactly what you actually want to happen, in as much detail as you can. Your mind really doesn’t know the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined, and will respond to precisely what you tell it! So using this to your advantage and use your brilliant imagination to create a visualised scenario where things happen exactly as you want them to, and where you manage any surprises with ease and confidence. 

Auditory (Hearing)

If you’re sensitive to sounds, the external noise of the horse’s hooves, your horse’s breathing, or sounds from the environment will all add to how you experience riding your horse. Internal sounds, such as your self-talk are also an important factor, since we often don’t realise quite how we speak to ourselves in our mind! Listening to calming music (where it’s safe to do so, obviously!), and positively managing your self-talk before and during your ride will help boost your confidence.

Kinaesthetic (Feeling)

If you are someone who is highly attuned to your feelings and emotions, you might be acutely aware of every physical sensation in your body and how it makes you feel. You might be aware of a knot in your stomach, tightness in your throat, or a very real feeling of having your legs turn to jelly! These type of physical sensations quickly transmit an alert to your mind, triggering nerves, anxiety and even fear. Practising deep breathing or other relaxation techniques can help you manage these physical sensations and reduce your anxiety.

Gustatory (Tasting)

As riders, the sense of taste is one we don’t often think about, and it’s closely tied to memory, where certain flavours can trigger emotional responses. I know of riders who chew minty gum before they ride (never chew gum while riding, as it is a choking hazard), and that minty sensation on their tongue can anchor feelings of readiness and confidence. Being mindful of what you eat or drink before riding and choosing flavours that you find comforting or refreshing can help trigger a shift in how you feel. 

Olfactory (Smelling)

Certain smells can evoke powerful emotional responses. I don’t know about you, but I love the slightly warm, sweaty smell of horses who have just worked (that sounds weird, doesn’t it?!). As a child, I dreamed of the smell horses, of leather tack, and even now the first fly spray of the summer brings a reminiscence of happy hacking days. Find those smells which make you feel good and remind you of happy times, then make use of these whenever you can. 

Recognising which of these sensory inputs resonates with you most will provide you with simple tools to improve your riding confidence. By consciously adjusting how you seek out and use these sensory inputs, you can help yourself feel more in control and less anxious while riding. 

Preferences

While each of us might have a preference for one or more internal representational systems, such as visual, auditory, or kinesthetic, it’s important to note that we don’t exclusively use just one; our mind gathers and uses information from all of them. Think of it like having a favourite tool in a toolbox; even though you might prefer one tool, you still use the others when the situation requires it.

For instance, even if you primarily process your experience in a primarily visual way by imagining scenarios and pictures in your mind, your mind will still also pay attention to what you hear, the physical sensations you feel, the tastes and smells that surround you. Each sense provides a different piece of the puzzle, contributing to a fuller understanding and experience of your environment.

This means when you’re riding your horse and trying to manage anxiety, even though you might focus on using your preferred sensory channel, such as visualising calm and successful rides, you’ll also benefit from tuning into the sounds that calm you, the feel of the horse beneath you, and even calming scents or flavours. Using a combination of all your senses can help create a richer, more grounded experience that can be more effective in managing your nerves.

Simple Tips

Visual

Focus on shifting your mindset by vividly imagining positive outcomes. Instead of letting your mind linger on potential challenges, picture yourself riding smoothly, handling challenges with ease, and finishing your ride successfully. This practice of visualisation can help build your confidence and reassurance. 

Auditory

Integrate calming sounds into your daily routine to help soothe your nerves. This could be as simple as listening to the radio while you tack up, or repeating positive affirmations to yourself such as “I am calm and in control” or “I trust my abilities and my horse.” These auditory cues can help create a mental environment of calmness and positivity.

Kinesthetic

Use physical relaxation techniques to reduce anxiety and physical tension. Before riding, try doing some gentle stretches, deep breathing exercises, or progressive muscle relaxation—where you tense and then relax different muscle groups. This not only relaxes your body but also prepares your mind for a more comfortable and focused ride.

Gustatory

Choose flavours that evoke a sense of calm and enjoyment for you. This might mean having a peppermint or a piece of dark chocolate before you ride or sipping herbal tea like chamomile which is known for its soothing properties. These tastes can trigger positive sensory memories and help calm your nerves.

Olfactory

Introduce a comforting and familiar scent into your riding environment. This could be applying a dab of lavender oil on your wrist or adding a few drops of tea tree oil to your riding gear. The smell of chamomile can also be soothing. These scents can significantly enhance your emotional state by triggering positive associations and reducing stress, creating a more relaxing atmosphere for both you and your horse.

By actively engaging these sensory strategies, you can better manage your emotions and enhance your overall riding experience. Each tip is designed to help you focus, relax, and enjoy your time with your horse, making your rides more pleasant and successful.

 

In conclusion, understanding how your internal representational systems influence your emotions can help you manage your nerves and anxieyt around riding. By recognising your preferred internal representational systems, you can use different strategies to feel calmer and more in control, so you can become a more confident rider. 

Falling from a horse can be a scary experience and can often change the way we feel about our riding in the blink of an eye. Injuries are common from falls and it is true to say that physically we can potentially do a lot of damage from hitting the deck. Injuries from the incident more often than not heal with time and care, but the experience can stay with us for a long time after the event.

One of the biggest things riders struggle with mentally after a fall is with their confidence. Losing confidence can be highly frustrating for riders. One minute you and your horse are riding around effortlessly together without a care in the world and then boom! just like that, you are considering whether riding your horse again is a good idea at all. Fear kicks in and a mental roadblock stops you from progressing with your riding.

There are many reasons why you may have lost your confidence after a fall and many questions swirling around in your mind: 

  • You may be thinking that the same incident will occur again when you get on to ride.
  • Maybe you are doubting your ability to be able to control your horse.
  • Perhaps you are worried about what others are thinking about your riding ability now you have taken a fall.

It is important after any fall that you take the time to heal both physically and mentally. Getting back in the saddle with physical injuries will not do you any favours and will potentially put you at risk of further injury. Mentally it can take time to overcome the incident. You will not likely be looking at the situation rationally when it is so fresh in your mind. Invest the time in healing after a fall. It’s all very easy to listen to others who are pushing for you to get back in the saddle as soon as possible.

Taking the time to reflect after a fall can often be very helpful in the recovery process. One of the key questions you should ask yourself is, was there a reason for the accident? Determining the reason can often help put some clear perspective on the situation.

Was the accident due to unusual behaviour from the horse? Unusual behaviour could be classed as bucking, rearing or bolting. Something that you wouldn’t usually associate with your horse. In situations of this kind, it is always best to get your horse checked out for pain by the vet or physio. Checking that tack fits correctly is also important and can often be the result of pain causing unusual behaviour in your horse.

Was the accident a result of rider error? Was there a communication problem between you and your horse? Riding accidents can be the result of poor communication between horse and rider. Determining this as a possible cause can give you valuable feedback on why the incident occurred and can help you decide on what you and your horse need to improve on.

Let’s take a look at some of the key ways in which you can help regain your confidence back after a fall from your horse.

  1. Time

They say time is a healer and this couldn’t be any more important after taking a fall from your horse. Take the time to heal both physically and mentally and give yourself the space to recover from the fall. Allow yourself the time to reflect on the incident when you feel you are ready and try to identify the reasons for the accident occurring. Take things slowly and progress step by step. Go back to the basics if necessary and start small. Don’t over face yourself and jump back in at the deep end.

  1. Coaching

Regaining your confidence back after a fall can often be a tricky process on your own. Sometimes some outside help is required. Booking you and your horse in for a lesson with an equestrian coach who you trust can really help with building your confidence back up again. It can help you feel supported and much safer knowing you have someone on your side there with you, to address the practical skills and training required to get you and your horse back on track. 

  1. Experienced Riders

Finding an experienced, skilled and educated rider to help you and your horse through this difficult time can be a wonderful tool to help rebuild your confidence on your horse. If there are schooling issues that may have been the cause of the accident an experienced rider may be able to work through these issues and keep your horse in work if you are out of action or too nervous to ride. Plus the right person can help develop your horse’s way of going and overcome any ridden issues your horse may have. 

  1. Breathe

It may seem strange to suggest practising breathing, but many of us tend to stop breathing properly when we ride our horses. Nervousness and confidence issues often play a huge part in the way we are breathing when riding. Practising breathing techniques will help you relax and stay focussed whilst riding your horse.

  1. Experienced Horses

Getting some lessons on a schoolmaster can work wonders for building your confidence. A schoolmaster can help you slowly regain your confidence, feel more comfortable and build on your riding skills. This can be particularly helpful for those who own a young or green horse.

  1. Fitness

A rider’s level of fitness can play a huge part in not only the horse’s way of going but also your own security. Building up your own physical fitness, suppleness and core strength can help you become more balanced, secure and effective as a rider. The security in your seat and core strength can put you in a much safer position when incidents arise.

  1. Confidence and Mindset

A fall from your horse can chip away at a positive mindset. It can take a considerable amount of time to build and maintain confidence in yourself and your horse. Working with an Equestrian Mindset / Confidence Coach can really help you to work through the psychological after-effects of an accident.

  1. Asks Questions

Asking yourself questions after a fall can be very beneficial for your confidence. The trick is to ask yourself the right questions!! Ask yourself questions such as, “How else can I look at this situation?” and “What positive learning can I take away from this experience”. Asking yourself the right questions can make all the difference. Make sure however that you’re not asking the wrong questions, for example, “Why does this always happen to me?” or “Why am I such a rubbish rider?”. These will only undermine your confidence and make you feel worse!

  1. Enjoy Your Riding

At the end of the day, riding is supposed to be a fun and enjoyable experience for all. If this isn’t the case then you need to make a conscious decision to make some changes. One of the key things you need to decide is what you need to change in order to reignite your passion for horses and doing what you love. Decide what you want to do, and take action to make progress towards your riding goals.

It’s easy to feel scared, stuck and frustrated after a fall, and it’s important to take action to help you move past your mindset gremlins. If you’re struggling with fear around riding after a fall, check out the Crack the Confidence Membership programme where you’ll learn how to overcome your nerves, anxiety and ‘what ifs’, so that you can refind your love and joy in riding your horse again! Click HERE for details.

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